August 3, 2007
I thought I’d share with you the emails that upset me so much. Compared to others they probably seem quite pathetic. I am the correspondent’s line manager.
Hi Boss* we have yet another micro management meeting with Anonatwork scheduled for tomorrow morning at 9. I suspect the shit is going to hit the fan in a rather large-ish way, you might want to be there.
*our boss’s first name was used here.
A couple of weeks before this person sent this email after I sent them an invitation:
NO…have you checked out my workload recently? Have you sorted out the website DESPITE plenty of notice? Are you at work during an important period? Are WE serious? Are you applying for the Management job? I sincerely hope NOT. Please reply before I forward my correspodence to Melbourne!
So yes. I am intimidated and hurt that this person would respond in such a way.
I’ll tell you how the meeting went shortly.
Entry Filed under: Emails, abuse, bully, bullying, cyberbullying, flames, intimidation, workplace. .
1. The meeting « Workplace Bullying | August 3, 2007 at 3:43 pm
[...] 3, 2007 I was pretty upset with the tone of the first email below and realised that it was doing exactly what it’s author intended – intimidate me into [...]
2. Potato Chip | August 4, 2007 at 6:53 pm
Hi
Sounds like this colleague of yours…the one with the email tantrum fetsish, is a right royal dick.
I was disappointed to see in your other reprots the perpetrator had got off without so much as a warning. That sucks!
What does it take for people to get warnings, condering big corporations these days carry on so much about their pretty anti-bulling policies. Yeah right! If the salesman is good, they ain’t going to punish him for being a bully, because that would mean less customers. You get the impression some bosses think it’s all the victims fault for not being a better communicator, or for being a weak character or for not confronting the bully about their feelings!
Yes, I too am a vicitm of work place bulling and I am giving my current carrer line because of it. The boisses htink it’ becasue I am not intersted. But in fact it is directly becasue of being bullied by an egotisical perosn in the workpalce. Let me tell you how it affected me.
There’s this bloke who has a really high profile and a really big ego. He’s quite well known. Because he’s a bit of a draw card for punters to the business, he’s considered “king pin”.
I am not his supervisors, but actually outrank him by title as part of another section. I used examples of some of his work in a training course to show junior people examples of some of the things they should try to avoid doing. There was no malice, it was just a good example of how they could do things differently and be better at their jobs. Most other trainers do the same – because its better to have real life examples than theory.
Gorilla King Pin got wind of it and farted bannanas out of his arse! He told the boss I was *@#* dumb and hit the roof.
Boss quietly passes og King PIn’s concerns. I told boss that that our national training team uses examples all the time. Common practice. And there was no malice in nay way the material was shown.
But being the kind of person I am – not wanting to have sour grapes about the office I rang Gorilla King at home to apologise (even though no-one asked too) and explained why it was infact a good thing to use his work as a learning tool.
He hit the roof swore at me and told me I was dumb. Then went off on an unrelated tangent and proceed to yell at me calling me a brown noser; said appauling things about my wife and called ME a bully an made lots of untrue accusations about why I had got a promoted to a secondment for 6 months and about other aspcts of work I had acheived.
I was very polite steered the conversation back to the reason I phoned.
Afterwards I was mortifed by his abuse. I mean this person should know better.
A colleague said the person had probably been drinking again! Apaprently King Pin drinks a lot.
King Pin now continues to move round the office saying unpleasant things work colleageus about me.
The impact of this monster has wrecked my outlook on my career. I see this person every day and do my best to avoid it.
I am young and smart and an innovative leader in my field. I was enthusiastic and believed I could steer my division into turning around our state’s lagging performance. I was on the road to this. But thes days I feel like I have had the guts kicked out of me. I feel darkly depressed, humiliated and have lost all passion and enthusiasm for my current career, at which I was very good. I was encouraged to apply for the job which I was acting in. But I now have no energy or drive to fullfil the plans I put in place for our division. My self esteem has hit rock bottom, I’ve put on 10kg and no longer give a stuff.
I will leave this line of work because of bullying. I am sad about that because in a short time I have achieved things in the role no one had been able to achieve in 10 years.
I thought I was the only person who felt like this about this Gorilla King PIn, until the other day I discovered King had attacked another colleague whom I work closely with. The person was very distressed and this made me angry about the impact King Pin is having in our office.
This bully continues to run riot in the workplace and knows he gets away with it because he brings in a lot of customers to the corporation.
Sadly thw corporation doesn’t realise why it loes a lot of good people. A lot is due to bullying.
Lets hope Gorilla King slips on his own banana peels.
All power to you for your site!
3. Career Aspirations « Workplace Bullying | August 6, 2007 at 8:26 pm
[...] 6, 2007 Potato Chip raised an interesting question in his comment. He (or she) says: I will leave this line of work [...]
4. anonatwork | September 7, 2007 at 7:59 pm
Thanks Potato Chip, It sounds like your guy has the same issues as mine! I’d love to know what you are doing to solve your issues,
AAW