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Comment on So six months later… by Potato Chip

Potato Chip — Mon, 15 Dec 2008 01:52:58 +0000

Haven’t been here for a while. It is interesting to read everyone’s comments. I sadly have left a career I loved and was good at because of workplace bullying.

The manager’s impression was to protect the bully because “it” was good for business. The manager did not want to remove the bully becaue he rated well. I quit that department in a terrible state of health and went to another. It was in the same building – so eventually I left. I did later apply for a fantastic job there and had great ideas – but pulled out of the interview because I felt sick when I imagined myself going to work and having to sit at a desk in an open plan office near “Mr Bully” and his pack of dumb disciples. I new the manager would not bother to have the guts to be decisive on bullying the workplace because history shows a lack of action on this topic.

As is the usual case for people affected by bullying at work – I made all sorts of excuses for not wanting to work there anymore because I did not feel supported when discussing bullying. Meanwhile I was screaming on the inside by th ehumiliation of being bullied. I told some people in HR and they didn’t even blink. I don’t think they took it seriously. Psychologiacal bullying is very serious – because others can’t see it happening.

The problem is some managers think it’s “me” that has some problem because I moved into other positions to avoind that floor.

I know others have been bullied by the same “Mr Bully”. They have been left in tears.

I was once afraid of my job and career potential if I rocked the boat and made a complaint. I could have gone a long way in my career, but I have been emotionally destroyed. It got to the stage where I had to plan my day so that I could avoid this high profile bully at work – checking the time I would arrive to ensure I didn’t bump into him in the corridor or lift. Checking the time I would head to the cafe – knowing he would not be there at that time. He spread nasty rumours and I just felt so vunerable and lost all confidence in my skills. Yet I am highly skilled!.

I am no longer afraid to tell everyone the workplace. It is the Australian Broadcasting Corporation – Yes our ABC! Workplace bullying at this particular office is one of “Aunty’s” hidden shames. Yet the manager appears oblivious…but certainly not unaware of “Mr Bully”.

Comment on So six months later… by workplacebullyingsucks

workplacebullyingsucks — Sat, 05 Jul 2008 11:43:39 +0000

Often the bully still works there.. curious.

Comment on So six months later… by workplacebullyingsucks

workplacebullyingsucks — Sat, 05 Jul 2008 11:43:21 +0000

I was glad to find your blog. I have just done a workplacebullyone too. Writing helps deal with it. I have subscribed.

Comment on So six months later… by Amy

Amy — Mon, 30 Jun 2008 14:28:09 +0000

Greetings, I was glad to find your blog this morning. Many people have been through what you have been through. Have you read the book by the Namies? Feel free to link to my blog: theworkplacebully.blogspot.com. I will add your Blog to my list of Notable Blogs.

Comment on About by Ross Arrowsmith

Ross Arrowsmith — Wed, 07 May 2008 13:40:20 +0000

Anon,

We feature several articles on workplace bullying and I would like to invite you to contribute as an author. Please email me if you are interested.

Comment on Duty of Care by Jennifer

Jennifer — Sun, 03 Feb 2008 18:39:30 +0000

Hi did you get any solutions for your situation? I am in the same situation at my work – and I am the employee. My boss and his “crew” are the bullies – they are all in HR except for one girl who just started. A girl in HR really dislikes me for no other reason except that I just do a good job and am sweet to everyone. She is my age (26) and in that “sort of overweight” stage. I think she is really troubled personally and shows it in her illogical behavior towards me. My boss is the director of HR and is “the cool guy”. I used to have a lot of tasks, but now my job sucks because they hired a girl (best friend of the girl in HR) who does nothing but makes labels and chats ALL day about hollywood gossip. She took over a lot of my mundane tasks (which kept my day busy). Here’s the kicker, we went to the same high school and she hated me in high school. She was an arrogant cheerleader in highschool and went to a no-name university to get her worthless bachelors. now I fall asleep at my desk and am told to make coffee every 5 seconds and other things that people are too lazy to do. I am a hard worker and others have recognized my work but no one recognizes that my boss-the recruiter and that new girl bully me. The recruiter owes me 7 dollars because she was “starving so bad” and no one had cash to loan her. My boss makes me sound ridiculous by making fun of my little dog or he slams boxes that I am carrying for another lazy ass up the stairs out of my hands, or the new girl asks me for a trash can for her new desk (my old desk) and refers to me as “the trash lady” and tells me to make coffee for HER boss because she “doesn’t do coffee”.

Comment on Duty of Care by Mad goat lady

Mad goat lady — Mon, 01 Oct 2007 03:57:35 +0000

Wow it’s a scary world out there.

Comment on Duty of Care by All Women Blogging Carnival - crazy meezer

All Women Blogging Carnival - crazy meezer — Mon, 01 Oct 2007 03:21:57 +0000

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Comment on The emails by anonatwork

anonatwork — Fri, 07 Sep 2007 11:59:53 +0000

Thanks Potato Chip, It sounds like your guy has the same issues as mine! I’d love to know what you are doing to solve your issues,
AAW

Comment on I’m not alone by anonatwork

anonatwork — Fri, 07 Sep 2007 11:58:33 +0000

Thanks for dropping by. It is such a pervasive issue and it is very difficult to change behaviours which have gone unchecked possibly since childhood.

By discussing it at least we go some way towards solving the problem!

AAW